True or False - Adelaide Anne Proctor

So you think you love me, do you?
Well, it may be so;
But there are many ways of loving
I have learnt to know.
Many ways, and but one true way,
Which is very rare;
And the counterfeits look brightest,
Though they will not wear.

Yet, they ring, almost, quite truly,
Last (with care) for long;
But in time must break, must shiver
At a touch of wrong:
Having seen what looked most real
Crumble into dust;
Now I chose that test and trial
Should precede my trust.

I have seen a love demanding
Time and hope and tears,
Chaining all the past, exacting
Bonds from future years;
Mind and heart and joy and sorrow
Claiming as its fee
That was Love of Self, and never,
Never love of me!

I have seen a love forgetting
All above, beyond,
Linking every dream and fancy
In a sweeter bond;
Counting every hour worthless
Which was cold or free:-
That was Love of Self, and never,
Never Love of me!

I have seen a love whose patience
Never turned aside,
Full of tender, fond devices,
Constant, even when tried;
Smallest boon were held as victories,
Drops that swelled the sea:
That I think was - Love of Power,
But not Love of me!

I have seen a love disdaining
Ease and pride and fame,
Burning even its own white pinions
Just to feed its flame,
Reigning thus, supreme, triumphant,
By the soul's decree,
That was - Love of Love, I fancy,
But not Love of me!

I have heard - or dreamt it maybe -
What love is when true;
How to test and how to try it,
Is the gift of few,
These few say (or did I dream it?)
That true Love abides
In these very things, but always
Has a soul besides.

Lives among the false loves, knowing
Just their peace and strife :
Bears the self-same look, but always
Has an inner life.
Only a true heart can find it,
True as it is true,
Only eyes as clear and tender
Look it through and through.

If it dies, it will not perish
By Time's slow decay,
True Love only grows (they tell me)
Stronger, day by day:
Pain - has been its friend and comrade;
Fate - it can defy;
Only by its own sword, sometimes,
Love can chose to die.

And its grave shall be more noble
And more sacred still,
Than a throne where one less worthy
Reigns and rules at will.
Tell me then, do you dare offer
This true love to me?
Neither you nor I can answer
We will - wait and see!