Domestic Violence And NATO

Mary Malone writes:
I don't know anyone who approves of domestic violence, yet it happens and always will happen. Undoubtedly, in societies like our own where militarism and hierarchy are glorified, and women objectified, the problem is going to be greater than in more 'primitive' societies, or working class and peasant communities where society is largely horizontal and reciprocal in nature.
Domestic violence is not the same as occasional violent spats, fights, arguments which  are, sad to say, part of the reality of our lives. We do not always behave with perfect equilibrium. Domestic violence is more to do with control, than simply the odd fight. An abusive partner seeks control - to inflate her or his own worth at the expensive of a partner who is belittled and isolated. If your partner trashes your friends, you can be sure s/he wants to control you. Likewise, if they try to egg you on in any dispute with your family you know that something is amiss.
Whether all this is a matter for the police is a different matter. A report by Her Majesty's Inspectorate of Constabulary seems to suggest that the police should do more. Apparently, the police receive a million calls related to domestic violence each year! There must be some neighbours who report abuse to the authorities every time they hear a raised voice! We know that there is a certain sort of busy-body addicted to denunciations. They are the life-blood of the Royal Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals and child abuse professionals, as they were the life-blood of the Gestapo.
Unless serious physical damage is caused, 'domestic violence' should not be a police matter. Within all relationships there is a great deal of manipulation. If this manipulation turns to intimidation the answer is to move out, to call on friends and society for support.
 People in England expect the State to look after them in old age and in sickness, in education and child crare, but the State cannot replace society in every instance.
We must reject the ever expanding reach of the State into our lives. It is the nature of the capitalist State to ever extend its power, to create new business for itself. It's foreign policy of NATO expansion in eastern Europe is part of the same impulse of hierarchical bureaucratic power that makes it wish to extend its influence into the most personal aspects of our previously private lives under the guise of policing 'abuse'.